I’ve been walking through the 10 Ways Lies Grow. Go here for the first one. Last time I talked through the stage 8 of When Lies Grow, and explored the darker side of lying and suppressing the truth. No fun. At this point things get more complex as…
9) They multiply their lies
Some giant monster lies have their own offspring: little lies birthed like demons in the dark–and they are all connected. Someone weaving a huge web of lies must keep tabs on all these different connected lies somehow—like a huge complex war game, or a marathon poker tournament, where the player is bluffing every hand, or like a thousand page novel, with plots and sub-plots. It sounds tiring to me.
But a liar has a narrative to keep up—so they start to shepherd more and more lies to keep up with the monster lie. Because they almost entirely believe their monster lie (stage 6) the other lies develop to serve the “false truth” the liar is keeping up. This means that the liar will spin yarns about things that are almost entirely unrelated to the monster lie. Ironically, they may even lie in ways so they get caught on small things, as misdirection away from the larger cave where the monster of their big lie awaits sleeping in anonymity.
One of the reasons this happens is when a whole culture of lying starts to develop. This happened in the world of Cycling the last decade. Check out this chart, which shows that the majority of the top finishers in the Tour de France have been pulled from the sport because of doping and PEDs.
As you might imagine, the liar now feels that “everybody is doing it” and the culture itself, the other liars, are even there to tell other smaller lies to keep your monster lie and their hidden in the darkness.
Is there a way to get out at this stage? Not really. If you do confess at this stage the whole house of cards comes tumbling down. Your monster lie will be slain, but all the little lies will be rounded up and the expansiveness of your lying will be told. And also the broader culture of lying will be exposed. The many other liars will also be affected. Such are the intricate implications of stage 9 lying.
Though these are the consequences, they are better than the last stage. So perhaps while telling these menial & meaningless lies the liar might wonder if it’s really all worth it. After one thread of the intricately woven lying sweater is pulled, perhaps it’s best to just let them keep pulling so you don’t have to keep feeding the lying monster down in the dark.
And yes, that’s about the most metaphors for lying that I could come up with in one article.
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Jump to any episode of the #WaysLiesGrow Series here:
1) They rationalize it. “The best pesticide for rationalization of lies is personal integrity.” Tweet
2) They get away with it. “A lie is like cancer—the affects of a malignant tumor can come long after discovery.” Tweet
3) They tell it twice. “Some who trust me most are those I’ve confessed sin to. Repentance builds trust.” Tweet
4) They get good at it. “All professions that require exceptional communication skills are dangerous breeding grounds for lying.” Tweet
5) They tell those they love. “Lying to someone close starts to erase the last shreds of dignity a liar has left.” Tweet
6) They tell it to themselves. “A liar remembers it like they said it, rather than remembering it like it really was.” Tweet
7) They let others tell it. “It’s one thing to ruin your life with lies—it’s another thing to ruin other people’s lives.” Tweet
8) They suppress those who question it. “The only thing worse than a liar is a liar with power.” Tweet
9) They multiply lies with more lies. “Some giant monster lies have their own offspring: little lies birthed like demons in the dark.” Tweet
10) They are trapped by it. “A soul without confession is like a lung without oxygen.” Tweet
Ron McClung wrote a neat article this week on “fibbing” that is relevant tot his series… here it is:
For February 9, 2013
POSITIVE PERSPECTIVE
By Ron McClung
A funny thing happened on the way to back surgery.
The air grew increasingly cooler as we approached the operating room. Entering the OR, I noticed the nurse who had been pushing me pulled a mask up over her mouth and nose. Everyone else in the room was already masked.
The nurse explained, “We’re going to give you some oxygen, then some medication to help you sleep. Once you’re asleep, we will insert a tube to help you breathe, then we will flip you over so you’re lying on your stomach. After surgery, we will remove the breathing tube and flip you over on your back, all before you wake up.”
I said, “You know, I’m not exactly a small person, so I am intrigued by your use of the word ‘flip.’”
Another nurse said, “You’re actually the smallest person we have had in here today.”
The first nurse said, “Don’t worry, we’re going to take good care of you.”
A masked man said, “Yeah, we’ve only dropped one today so far.”
A few chuckles, then the surgeon said, “Don’t pay any attention to him. He fibs a lot.”
I said, “Maybe you should hook him up to a de-‘fib’-rillator. That should take care of the problem.”
The crew laughed, someone placed a mask over my face, and within a few seconds, I was asleep. The next thing I knew – two and a half hours later – I woke up in recovery.
The surgery went well. The nerve is unpinched. It will take time for everything to heal.
Back to the “fibber.” What he said was in fun and everyone understood he was kidding. No harm, no foul.
Unfortunately, people do tell lies. Their intent is to deceive. We talk about little white lies, fibs and other terms to soften the seriousness of dishonesty. But God considered it serious enough to include it in the Ten Commandments – “Thou shalt not bear false witness,” said the old King James Version, or as the NIV declares, “You shall not give false testimony against your neighbor” (Exodus 20:16).
For some, it becomes a habit and they tell one lie to cover up another. We don’t have a de-“fib”-rillator that will shock someone into telling the truth. But God does offer forgiveness to those who will stop lying and begin to live and speak honestly.
(c) 2013 by Ron McClung